Love after Covid

It's been 2 years since the Pandemic hit us, as of today we're still trying to figure shit out, including our so-called love life. From TMZ to the crazy stories, I heard it all, from hearts being broken to marriages being ripped and torn apart. The daily drill was quite suffocating; being in a 4x6 with your significant other, the whole day and not able to vent out your so-called frustration away. Hear me out, I’m with you I understand your pain. Let's talk, and then kumbaya, let's take a deep breath together, for one I certainly need it, and for you, it will help you digest some of the shitty moments, we probably have had since Covid. Now we have two choices, choice A: keep wandering about our past, or choice B to move forward for the amazing opportunities lying ahead. The choice is yours to make, I’m just here for moral support and to help you create new room for the second shot of love. My experience is simple to move forward, as the past doesn’t reflect our future. As long as you can learn to forgive and start the process to re-learn to love yourself, and everything else will come into place organically. Buckle up as we go full speed to the journey of love and hopefully discover the amazing version of yourself and for what lies ahead. Are you ready… for Jon Doe 2.0 or Jane Doe 2.0. I’m excited, to see the best version of yourself, come on you got this man. Maybe by the end of this story, you might just find love again, while picking up your next espresso, and complimenting someone's beautiful smile. You go girl, your on your way to a beautiful start.

It's time to spark the fire and start to look at your past relationship, at what actually worked and what slipped to the cracks. We're not here to point fingers or bash our ex's, just try to recall a few of the concerns of what made the relationship break the last straw, and a call to action to make the next relationship the best one ever. Sometimes we jump the gun, decide not to work on ourselves, and end up on the rebound. Followed by ending up feeling hurt, disappointed, and feeling of resentful, let’s rewind the tape because we're not going back to square one. Disappointment happens to each one of us, especially when we don’t really understand how to create the best version of ourselves. Start with creating a new persona of ourselves, and I don’t mean get a tattoo sleeve or any outrageous piercings, be different, but at the same time look classy or GQ. Common mistakes we end up doing when on the rebound, going for people that don’t fit with our true authenticate selves. In order to heal mentally, some soul searching might help, practice your faith and learn to truly love yourself once again. Try working on the concerns that failed in our previous relationships, such as communication issues, trust issues, and health issues. The best thing that healed me, was going to group therapy and listening to others, and voicing their issues about their relationships. What help me learn from those sessions, was that everything is based on our perspective and expectations, that we have engraved in our minds from what has been fed to us from the outside the world and to a degree our upbringings. To tackle the relationship’s challenges, we have a choice to either react with hate or react with love. The greatest mistake we make, is we expect love from others without giving love in return, which leads to many breakups and disappointments.

My take is simple the next relationship you end up getting in, start off as friends and build that foundation and see if grows to an emotional connection. At the same time build your preference list of what you are truly looking for in a relationship, for example, similar qualities. Question yourself are you looking for someone to help you grow as an individual; help you build your empire, or are you looking to have a genuine deep conversation, which can help heal you mentally in tough times. Make it a point of the qualities and values you're looking for, don’t just write about the things you’re not looking for, because that is what you might attract. While connecting with a new soul mate don’t test the relationship with mind games just to test the water. Ending up scratching your head and asking yourself “if he or she is boyfriend or girlfriend material”. Instead have meaningful conversations, that will last for hours, so if do two end up growing old together, and enjoying to love each other company. I once asked a married couple what their secret was to have an enjoyable and happy marriage, and she simple reply back “ were the best of friends in good and bad times” I guess that’s what true love is, after all, a beautiful friendship…